Until now I have had neither time nor spirits to write about my wanderings around Accra. Today, all the stars aligned.

On my wanderings, I often see poverty exist right next to immense wealth in this town. This is not unlike Lagos — the city of my teenage years.

We…

It’s been a tough year. If today feels like the worst day in a spectacularly terrible year, I can imagine how you feel.

If you feel like crying, do so.

Tears is the shower of the soul. Do so at your desk, the nap room, or in the bathroom. …

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Can I confess something to you?

Half the time, I feel like a categorical failure.

I spend a lot of time conferring with my inner critic.

“There is a voice inside of you that says you haven’t come very far, that your achievements don’t matter; that anyone could do what…

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On the road to Adjiringanor, I thanked my date for paying for our ice cream. As usual, I had no cash and the ice cream shop she demanded we go to didn’t accept cards or mobile money that night.

In the Uber, she told me were a few meters away…

“Rasta night at Wli” by Gbenga Onalaja on Unsplash

In Kpeshie, I lost my voice. I stopped cleaning the bathroom walls and left the dishes too long.

On the small tan rug at the foot of my bed I would often sit; thinking of all the people I promised to call back. …

It’s why 30% of internet content is porn and why porn sites attract more visitors each month than Amazon, Netflix, and Twitter combined.

It’s why brands are gravitating towards clapping back on social media when they could instead be a supportive infrastructure helping to direct culture towards more kindness and…

A stroll to Haut Nkam | Photo by Photo by Gbenga Onalaja on Unsplash

What does it mean to be an adult?

It means to be independent and self-sufficient; fully in control of your time and accountable to yourself and no one else. At least, this is the lie you’ve tricked yourself into buying.

The reality is that you have given permission to other…

Brands pay us heavily.

To draw up brand strategies, craft the best ads and create stories that make them swoon, laugh, cry and smash that share button on Instagram; they pay us top dollar.

And because brands pay heavily for this, we’ve come to assume it must be what the…

As often as Asa has declaimed love, she’s never appeared to play on the active end of the spectrum. In LUCID, Asa’s understanding seems to have cleared up, she’s taking the controller and making her own combinations now.

Bukola Elemide | © 2018 Onalaja Gbenga | Shot at Johnnie, Jazz & Whisky 2018

Between the quietly assertive funk of “Soul” — the first song off…

Surfing and smiling at Tarkwa Bay.

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“Waves are not measured in feet and inches,” Buzzy Trent is credited with proclaiming, “they are measured in increment of fear.”

Fear, of course, is hardly as wholesome or pleasantly stimulating as Mr. Trent might have one believe. When choppy saline waters of the…

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